What has church discipline got to do with divorce? If you are a Christian, depending on the tradition that you come from, there may be a practice of church discipline. From the outside looking in, the church may or may not have a good reputation for doing well with this practice. The basic idea is… Continue reading Christians, divorce, and church discipline
Category: Marriage
The most important team in your life
Around New Years this year I wrote an article to the effect of the unified husband and wife achieve more. People who share common goals have a greater likelihood of achieving their goals. Dave Ramsey, in his book EntreLeadership, uses a metaphor to show the synergy of working in teams. I think the number one… Continue reading The most important team in your life
What is real intimacy?
What exactly is real intimacy? It’s a whole lot more than just sex. A lot of times in our modern culture we use the word “intimacy” as a euphemism for talking about sex. There can be intimacy, non-sexual intimacy in lots of relationships or lots of areas in your life. The developmental phase that you hit… Continue reading What is real intimacy?
Perennial Problems – The Ones That Never Go Away
What do you do with the perennial problems in your marriage? The kind of arguments that make you feel like you’re living in Groundhog Day, but in your relationship. Those arguments that just come back over and over and over again. It depends on whether you can manage them. Some arguments are just unsolvable. They… Continue reading Perennial Problems – The Ones That Never Go Away
8 Marriage Killing Expectations
Unmet expectations lead to contempt and conflict. Expectations in marriage go unmet for one of two reasons: It is too early in your marriage to expect that thing. Or you haven’t communicated the need.
Marital Finance, 10 Activities to Build Unity
Marital finance is a touchy topic. Financial conflicts in marriage are a major contributor to divorce. Make it a fun and regular habit to check in with your spouse about finances.
2 Communication Essentials for a Happy Marriage
Effective communication is critical in marriage. To communicate effectively you must express yourself clearly, and you must listen deeply.
5 Myths about Couple’s Counseling
This is a guest post from my friend Emily at Pax Family Counseling. She’s got some great thoughts here. I’ve added my commentary in italics.
Compatibility is a lie. Focus on character.
Compatibility is supposed to describe how one thing fits another thing. In marriage and relationships, it’s supposed to predict your happiness together.
Your Part in a Breakup
Half of dealing with a breakup is forgiving the other person for their mistakes. Half of dealing with a breakup is processing your failures.