You can change your life by changing one thing. Yourself. You cannot control external circumstances. You cannot control other people. You cannot control even your emotions. At least not in that moment when you first experience them. But you can control your responses to those things.
You can control your response to your emotions. You can control your response to the negative people in your life. And you can control your response to adverse situations in your life if you choose to do that. If you choose to be responsible for yourself, to be as positive as you can be, as mature as you can be, and as strong as you can be, then you might be surprised by the results.
Those other people in your life might reciprocate with their strength, with their own positivity, and their maturity. Those dysfunctional relationships might become less dysfunctional. And the negative circumstances might become less negative. It won’t happen every time, but it will happen a lot of the time, and it’s very worth it when it does.
Cultivate your personal growth. Work on yourself. What does that mean? If you’re a Christian, that means becoming more like Jesus. You need Jesus in your life if you want to do that. If you’re not a Christian, that’s fine. Personal growth still means building certain things in your life, including love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
It’s the Fruit of the Spirit. Yes, I pulled that from a Bible verse and if you’re not a Christian, that may bother you. But I doubt that you would object to having any of those things in your life.
So work on cultivating those things in your life. There will be benefits in your marriage. There will be benefits in your parenting. There will be benefits in your job, in your business, and in yourself, in your internal sense of satisfaction, safety and fullness.